Wickedness is always wickedness, but folly is not always folly. – Emma, by Jane Austen
This has always been one of my favorite quotes, although I am not sure I could tell you why that is. It is partly because of my own life and history, although I dare not try to unravel here the tangled mess which are my thoughts on that subject.
Mostly however it stays with me as a reminder: That it would do us all well to keep our eyes on our own paper, endeavor to do good and not wickedness, and leave most others (not all as there are people in our charge), but most all others to decipher for themselves what is folly outside of general truisms.
What a disaster it would be to offer counsel from our vantage point which is a stark contrast to what is folly from theirs.